While it is important to learn how to exude the right body language for the appropriate setting when it comes to your own body language, it is also important to learn how to read the body language of others.
Of course, if you are giving a presentation, you want to learn all you can about body language that exudes confidence. If you are nervous and upset, you may wish to give the appearance of being calm and in control. These are just a few examples of why you want to learn how to present the appropriate body language for the right situation.
However, reading the body language of others is just as important. Learning how to read body language can help you in many ways:
• In business settings
• In personal relationships
• When encountering new individuals
There are several ways to read body language; however, here are three of the top tips when it comes to decoding the non-verbal communication of body language.
How to Read Eye Contact
Some have heard it said that the eyes are the window to the soul. The eyes really can tell a lot about what a person is thinking. Learning how to read the signals of the eyes is key to interpreting body language.
If someone is looking you directly in the eye, it can mean several things. For starters, that person may be sincere and confidently believe in what she is saying to you. However, if that person is leaning forward, looking you in the eyes, and is raising her voice, this may be a sign of intimidation.
Learning how to read pupil dilation is another significant way to read eye contact. Typically, if a person’s eyes are dilated, that individual is interested in you and what you have to say.
Alternatively, if someone’s pupils are constricted, there is more than likely a feeling of distrust toward you.
When an individual’s eyes are quickly looking from side to side, this could be an indication that she is not telling the truth or has something to hide.
Looking up typically indicates that someone is thinking vividly while speaking with you, while looking down may signal guilt or shyness.
The next time you lean forward, notice if that person comes closer to you or moves farther away. If he or she comes close to you while you lean forward, this means that you are not invading her personal space and it is fine to continue to get closer. However, if that person moves away, then you will know you have crossed over too closely into her personal space.
If an individual receives your greetings and conversation with open arms, then he or she is welcoming your engagement. However, if someone has crossed arms, chances are more than likely that this individual is not open to what you are saying or how you are saying it.
Also, hands on the hips may indicate a sense of impatience or agitation toward you, while an open stance with arms relaxed at the sides means that you are making this person feel comfortable.
These are only three of the top ways to learn how to read body language, but they are easy to remember and can instantly tell you a lot about how your communication is being received.
We’ve all had customers at one time or another exhibit one of these “negative” non-verbals and we knew that our message was not being received well.